What to do if a child wants a dog, how to refuse?
Indeed, in some ages many of the children suddenly light up the desire to have a four-legged friend. Often children want to have a puppy, sometimes a kitty.
You, as an adult, understands that the child will play and forget, and You will be responsible for a living creature. But the child not want to upset, how can we be?
Read article that psychologically is very true describes how to tell Your child “no”, while not inflicting mental injury.
From a conversation overheard in the lobby of the elementary school:
Children in our class polls asking parents a tablet for the new year. So my daughter throws us and Santa Claus letters. And this is the first class, by the way!
– Lucky you! I can only dream that the son wanted a tablet as a gift, or designer. But they only want a puppy. But we live in a rented apartment. And the husband is against it. But at home only and conversations that about a little puppy.
Listen and imagine the Baby, the hero of the famous fairy tale by Astrid Lindgren, who on his birthday was up at the parents eyes full of tears: “what about the dogs?”
A conscious, burning desire to have a pet usually comes to children in 6-7 years. And this is the age where they can not only play with the animals, but also partially assume responsibility for taking care of them: the third graders can be trusted of corticipetal, cleaned the cage, to comb wool. But one child’s desire to become the owner of an adorable puppy or a fluffy kitten is not enough.
Parents can be against animals in the house for a variety of reasons: Allergy to wool someone from the family members, there is not enough space in the apartment for a large dog, or you are simply not ready to take responsibility for the four-legged creature. And you have such a right. Only it does not negate the guilt of the children’s resentment: parents think that in the eyes of a child they look like destroyers of dreams, it’s so easy for words to get a kitten or a puppy and make the kids happy.
Only in this difficult situation even primary children’s resentment. A very important factor is the condition of the animal who has to live in the family for many years and may not be recaptured care and personal time from owners who were not ready for his appearance. Fascinated by the idea of having a little friend, the child promises to take all the difficulties of caring for a pet for yourself.
But above all it is a game with a pet, their General, the funny moments. Therefore, whoever was not officially purchased the desired puppy or cat, parents understand that they will have an additional responsibility: to constantly monitor the way your child provides care for pet and to take most of this.
How to honestly explain to the child why you say no:
You have little time . Recall with the children the schedule for the whole family: how much you get out of the house, how long children last after school club and clubs, the hour are all going home. Consider whether it is honest with such a tight schedule family leave the animal alone all day without the possibility to play and to walk. Tell the child that in the early months is also important to have your pet accustom to the toilet and his education. If this is let slide, then the animal may not show its best qualities: to show aggression towards family members, to spoil the furniture or shoes etc.
You have little space . Often the child forgets that funny tiny puppy in a few months grows into a large dog that needs space to develop, to train, to move. It is very difficult to do in a city apartment.
The child has plans for the future . If the conversation happens to teenagers, recall that in 3-4 years he may want to go to College in another city or even another country and can’t take a pet that gets used to them.
A large dog can be child can not afford . If a child dreams of a specific, large breed dogs, which will proudly walk in the yard, tell me that in 6-7 years he may still be physically difficult to hold an adult dog, that if they see something interesting and pull the owner aside. Off the leash, the dog can start a fight with other animals on the ground, to frighten a human or get lost. This risk must also be considered.
If the parents lead a good enough reasons at the moment, the appearance of an animal in the house is impossible, most likely, the child will agree that you can postpone the purchase of a pet for a while. Put the period within which you will be able to return to the conversation and see whether you have changed your opinion and strengthened if the baby in your desire.
Through moral training for the future, however read the information about the pet, the child asks, and will discuss how have to take care of him. Go through the points, not glossing over the reality: does the child in the first time to wipe the puddle behind the puppy, will he be able to Wake up half an hour before the usual time to take the dog for a walk, someone from the family may be asked to stay with the pet when the family is going on vacation.
Buying a kitten or puppy for a child, adults need to understand that is introduced into the house of a new family member who will not be able to not be considered and their pet too. Not only because parents still have to take care of him, but because four-legged creature is still another love in your life. That is why the idea of continuous exposure to the dog or cat must agree each member of the family, and, if the doubt or outright resistance occur at least one, better to abandon this idea.
First, a negative attitude may feel the pet, secondly, the appearance of the stimulus in General affects relations among the family members. With all due respect to animals and the understanding that our smaller brethren teach children friendship, love and responsibility, you still have the right to say “no”.
If you do not abandon the idea to have a pet, but I understand that children are still small and the right moment comes, try to negotiate with them about to postpone the event for some time. The children got used to the school regime, learned to perform their duties in the home and were confident that they would be able to find pet enough time. Then the arrival of a furry friend can be considered balanced on all sides of the decision.